The day the first episode I was in was due to air, TLC shared the following video on their website in which my friend and I speak about her online dating profile and what she's been looking for:
It is curious thing that we can find it all to easy to hold on to every piece of negative feedback we might get but ignore the positive things. As the negative is held onto longer it begins to form a negative loop in our mind. After a while we begin to look only for those negative things in ourselves and our experience, we see ourselves only in that negative light. In Yvonne's profile some rather remarkable things she has done in her time were given as throwaway comments or hidden in brackets, and lots of time was given over to very generic likes and dislikes such as walking. (The most common comment I have had from friends who have watched the show is "what's wrong with liking walks, Alex?" Please, believe me nothing is wrong with liking walks, but I think that most people enjoy walking. It just doesn't really compare to having been a rally driver in terms of intrigue, especially when you're looking at achievements and trying to provide an profile that is going to make you stand out!)
However, in my professional experience, when people have been able to use therapy to gain perspective about themselves by bringing in those negative feelings about themselves and also have them coexist with their positive attributes and achievements they have been able to progress brilliantly.